Most people get married believing a myth—that marriage is a beautiful box full of all the things they have longed for: companionship, sexual fulfillment, intimacy, and friendship. And that somehow the box mysteriously remains full of those goodies. After marriage they start to empty the box, believing their spouse will fill it again. But it won’t happen, at least not for long. The box gets empty, disappointment sets in, and the relationship takes a nosedive.
The truth is that marriage, at the start, is an empty box. You must put something in it before you can take anything out. There is no love in marriage; love is in people, and people put it into marriage. There is no romance in marriage; people have to infuse it into their marriages.
A couple must learn the art and form the habit of giving, loving, serving, praising—keeping the box full. If you take out more than you put in, the box will get empty. Love is something you do--an activity directed toward your mate. It takes two to keep the box full.